Women vs. Women

Why is it that as girls we desire to tear other girls down? Let's face it, when's the last time a new girl came around and you didn't size her up?

"Her hair is longer than mine."
"Is she funnier than me?"
"Are the guys going to like her more than they like me?"
"Her smile is prettier than mine."
"Her parents make more than mine." etc, etc.

It's almost a natural habit we have acquired as women of today's society. That new girl no longer becomes an option for a friend, but instead another target of competition, and that's just not right. We tell women who are overweight to put the fork down while we tell skinny women to pick it up. We tell the quiet girls to speak up while we yell for the loud girls to shut their mouths. It's not even fair game when it comes to our standards we set for other women. So, if we know how awful it is to be treated horribly like that, why do we continue to treat others in the same way, just adding to the never-ending cycle of tearing one another down? It baffles me. Girls baffle me. I baffle me (as silly as that sounds).

Whether it's in the form of gossip, subtweeting, verbal or physical bullying, comments on social media, racism, etc. we all partake in the never-ending cycle, but why?

I'd say it has to do with the little green eyed monster that lives in the hearts of women; Jealousy, I believe is what they call him. But why are women so jealous of one another? Personally, I think it's because these jealous women lack the ability to see their own self worth. I suffered from my inability to see my own worth multiple times before I met Christ, but why should I have allowed my inability to see my worth as a person hurt another girl? That was ridiculous for me to do that, and it's ridiculous that that's what society has taught us to do: elevate yourself by bringing someone else down, whether it's publicly or simply in your own thoughts. I mean society just blatantly tells us that the woman vs. woman fighting is okay. Just look at The Bachelor, where 25 women fight for one guy who is willing to do whatever, whenever, with almost whoever. Each of the 25 girls are willing to tear each other apart in order to gain the attention of some guy they've never even met before the show. Don't you see the wrong in that?

I mean we hear the "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" phrase all the time, but clearly it's not taken to heart. However, I challenge you to make an effort to only let uplifting words come your mouth for at least one week especially if they are about another woman. I'm not challenging you to be fake to one another, but instead to gain respect for each other. You never know the battles another girl may be facing that day, and you don't want to be the one who breaks her.

We all have the same value in the eyes of our Heavenly Father, and He's our standard. Our standard isn't defined by what society tells us or by another woman, so stop with the hatred towards one another, and find your worth in His eyes. You can be the one to stop the cycle.